Being Fit to Court
How to Be a Gentleman
To be a gentleman in the Victorian Era, you should stand up the first time a lady enters a room or takes her final leave, and you must always open the door for a lady, as long as you are in reasonable proximity to it. A gentleman should never remove his coat while standing, sitting, riding, or walking with a lady, but must always remove his hat if speaking to a woman.
How to Be a Lady
In the Victorian Era, a single woman should always be with a chaperone older than herself and should preferably be married. She should never look back after anyone in the street, or turn to stare at others. Intelligence is not encouraged, nor is an interest in politics. She should not gossip, chew gum or fix her appearance in public. Slang or bad language is discouraged.
You’ve Found the Person You Wish to Court
The Importance of the Introduction
Back in the 18th and 19th Century, a man and woman needed to be introduced to each other before they should begin speaking. A gentleman would have to go through the proper channels of introduction, which meant that he would look for a mutual friend of theirs to introduce them. If this did not work, he would try to get the ladies attention by attending places he knew she frequented.
Fanning For Attention
Due to the strict code of etiquette that was to be followed during the Victorian era, new ways to court were invented. Items such as fans, gloves, and handkerchiefs were given meaning as were objects given as gifts called “love token” such as flowers, painted miniatures, or jewellery sets with gemstones of a particular significance.
How to Flirt With Your Fan:
|Fan Movement||What it Meant|
|Fan fast||I am independent|
|Fan slow||I am engaged|
|Fan with right hand in front of face||Come on|
|Fan with left hand in front of face||Leave me|
|Fan open and shut||Kiss me|
|Fan open wide||Love|
|Fan half open||Friendship|
|Fan swinging||Can I see you home?|
Courting Today: It’s Costly
According to a study from RateSupermarket.ca, the cost of being in a relationship in 2015 from the first date to your wedding day was $50,399.20. In one year of dating it is estimated that couples spend $7,740.21 on dates, vacations, and other expenses like flowers and clothes. During an engagement of one year, a couple spends around $10,913.99 on dates, clothing, an engagement ring and an engagement party. On top of this the average Canadian wedding costs $31,685.00, which includes the dress, the venue, and a honeymoon.